How close together???

What can be better in life than loving someone and being loved. And moreover when the love reaches the depths of souls, so much so that the souls of the two people are connected with the same thread of love, we reach the heights of bliss and ecstacy. But being myself in a relationship and seeing my friends and others too I have observed that something prevents all of us from letting our love seep in our soul. There is a strange kind of a hesitation in all of us from embracing that love fearlessly and completely with open arms. I mean really with open arm!!. There is a hesitation in becoming one with that force of love which fills us from within and without and seeps into every cell of ours.


As I write this a vivid picture comes to my mind of a person walking in the drizzle. Have you ever seen that when it is drizzling most of us clutch our fists and hands, bow down our head and walk in a way to prevent our selves from getting wet? Have you ever noticed those lines on the forehead as a result of us tightening our facial muscles while walking in the drizzle? It seems that though we are walking in the drizzle and getting wet unavoidably but we still do those small things to prevent ourselves from getting wet. The lines on the forehead and the clutched fist is nothing but a sign of resistance to get wet, even when we know that wont help at all. And suddenly when you let go off all the resistance and fear and open your arms and raise your head to the sky the fine drops of rain slide down your forehead and onto the nose and you break free. That feeling is so great and fine. You feel one with nature and you really let the rain and bliss seep in every cell of yours.

The love in our lives is no different from the drizzle. And though we know that letting go off the resistance would ultimately take us to the path of bliss but the counter force to let go off that fear and resistance is too strong. The battles and challenges of life, though worth living, have made us individualists, it has made us highly strong headed, and at the same time has made us more rigid. We have narrowed down our individuality and our identity to our strong headed opinions, our principles, etc. And therefore we are afraid of changing and accomodating because that in our opinion would mean losing of identity. It is this which prevents us from opening our arms and raising our heads to the sky when God, through another human being has decided to shower love upon us.

All said and done. The above resistance is not completely invalid, and in many cases infact it may be your strong suit too. It may be something which helps you win in other areas of life. And moreover the term Unconditional Love may really sound heavenly but its not possible to love someone unconditionally. Two people in love may have a different view of life, different ways of working, different principles, etc. And unfortunately lack of acceptance of these differences come in the way of unity of souls in the real sense. And even if one of the person accepts the differences does not mean that the other will also do the same. And even if both the people accept the differences doesnt mean that the differences have disappeared. Trust me acceptance might lower down the resistance and increase the possibility of reaching a common ground, but it will not unite your souls completely because somewhere something is being compromised. Not only these differences but certain other differences due to the acts of God like differences in destiny, death of a loved one, etc come in the way of that blissful unity of souls.

Are we as humans doomed to an incomplete love inevitably? Or can we indeed live life in a way where irrespective of our differences we are really drenched into each other, as if sleeping naked in the same blanket in the cold winter night, where at least for sometime physically and emotionally there ceases to be any barrier?

So does that really mean that we will never be able to live that life of onness?

Below are the words of Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet. Reading these lines I have got some answers and some peace..

"You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."

The height of laziness!!!


When girls say that you are a handsome guy and still you are not bothered about the growing size of your ass you can safely conclude that you are touching the heights of laziness!!!

I am experiencing pretty much the same thing these days. People have been telling me dude you are gaining weight slowly and I am least bothered. I have become so lazy sitting at home that even the thought of joining the jym has become an ordeal. Yesterday when Reedima hit my butt with a newspaper and said it is looking fatter and heavier than before, I decided to do something about it.. So today I spent half an hour on the net and googled how to eat and still loose weight! (Laziness right?). I found something interesting over there but then its again not less than a battle to convince mom to prepare that kind of food everyday for next 15 days at least, and moreover since I am so lazy these days, I dont wanna make that effort too.. :-) So again I am back to square one.

As a matter of fact really I did nothing today. I woke up at around 9 in the morning but dint leave the bed before 10.30. Then mom came in and shouted on me to get up and do something.. (You know she cant stand people sleeping away to glory after the sun rise). I woke up reluctantly, got hold of my laptop and began surfing the net on the bed itself. Ate breakfast and realized I dint brush my teeth. Did the toilet business and the rest of day continued as slowly.....

I am waiting for the college to reopen and waiting for the action to come back in life. Honestly. Meeting the deadlines of completing presentations, projects, assignments, and attending seminars of corporate organizations and still taking out time for hanging out with friends is always better. Gives you some sense of fulfilment and satisfaction instead of becoming a lazy bum!

To pee or not to pee.... What is it with toilets???

Lets talk about toilets today!!

All random stuff.... :-)

Great thinkers and Scientists, we have heard, used to sit in toilets for hours together either on the shit pot or in the bath tub, before shouting 'EUREKA' or coming up with brilliant and life transforming ideas!! I dont disagree with this, because I myself have found that my brain works wonders when I am sitting in the toilet. Trust me the kind of ideas I get there makes me sometimes feel proud of myself!! After all what is it with toilets man??

Unfortunately I dont know much about the relationship which women share with the toilet seats, except for the fact that women watch them selves in the toilet mirror for hours and hours from different angles before stepping in the shower. And at this time the only thing they do is either wishful thinking(in case they think they are fat) or feel proud of themselves for having the perfect figure and having appropriate flesh at strategic places ;-). Though the one thing which I dont understand is that why do women see themselves everyday in the mirror, before stepping in the shower?? Do they expect to grow fat in one day?? hehehe...

Anyways, we were talking about the relationship with toilets.. Yeah as I said above, I dont know much about the relationship which women share with the toilet. But yeah, men share an intimate relationship with the toilet seats, because even the research says that shit pots are the spring well of great ideas!! Probably when you are shitting you are more receptive to new ideas to fill in the vaccum again :-)

Not only this.. Men have even sharpened their sense of humour inside toilets by writing silly yet extremely funny jokes on the wall in front of them when they are sitting on the shit pot or peeing.

Recently while peeing in a public toilet I could not hold my laughter when I read a one liner on the wall!! It wrote-

                                         "देश की आबादी बढाने वाली चीज़ तुम्हारे हाथ में है!" :-) :-)

And yeah, how can I forget about the favorite washroom talks.. Till long it used to elude me that why do girls go to washrooms in a herd. Obviously all the girls dont go to pee togehter, then what is it?? Till now what I could only observe that whenever I or any other guy used to talk to a new girl, she would rush in the bathroom after a few minutes with a group of girls running behind her.. LOL!!! I am sure they giggled how HOT or how NOT i or the other guy was. :-)

Then the second thing which I have observed million times is that if one girl would cry then the entire heard of girls would rush after her in the bathroom.. :-)

Guys talk about sports, about how sexy that girl was looking today, and about shagging and all.. LOL!!!

To pee or not to pee is not the only thing you do in the toilet!!!

There is a lot more :-) :-)