IM-PACT!!

There are always two worlds in which we lead our lives. An internal world and the external world. And more often than not there is a ceaseless conflict between these two worlds and sometimes we end up searching for our place between these two worlds, and since we as people love to have a sense of belongingness with the external world, we manage to find our place somewhere out there. But that is not all! In our quest of finding and establishing our place out there, we try to keep our basic values, ethos, principles, etc intact because we want to minimize the conflict with ourselves too.

In the contemporary times specifically when we find an invasion of varied everchanging and dynamic thoughts  from all around which is the springwell of lifestyles, relationships, and everything around us, we find our very principles shaking sometimes. Lets accept it. I have seen that the principles of most 'principled' people have shook because of their on going conflicts with the external world. And let me make my ground clear over here. I am not complaining that they were weak people. I have examples where I have restructured my principles etc. So i am not complaining. What i am just trying to say that probably they were too rigid and now they find their ice cold rigidity melting away due to the heat of their conflicts with the two worlds. And the conflicts arise due to the paralysis which the 'rigid' principles bring and which render the person unable to live in peace and harmony with the two worlds.

So where does all this put us??

On the one hand our principles are at stake, and on the other hand our survival of living. In the struggle to find our place we sometimes give in to the external world, sometimes happily embrace the external world, sometimes refuse to budge, and in very rare times weave an awesome dynamic and an optimum balance between the two worlds. Its not an easy task to weave that balance.

All said and done I dont have a solution to the above described problem and no one would ever have a general solution. We all are travelling a different journey and our solutions have to be different because the two worlds in which we live are different and unique from the others, and so our conflicts are different.

Towards the end I would say that the basic principles of humanity have to be upheld in all circumstances because indeed they are the life blood of our civilization, but I dont hesitate in saying that the superficial principles can not have a quality of timelessness in them and have to be restructured all the time in a way that a delicate yet perfect balance is weaved between the two worlds, because these two worlds will always exist with people at any time and the best person would be that who minimizes this conflict within these two worlds all the time.

A bit of anticipation and a bit of foreplay can send you to the heights of orgasm. Isn't it?? ;-) And the higher you reach before the orgasm, the lower you are sent after the orgasm.. Thats exactly what is happening with me right now. The Diwali festival brought with it self a great degree of anticipation for fun, playing cards, parties, dinners, etc few days before Diwali.. All this anticipation transformed into a reality with all the parties and get to gethers happening at my place and sometimes at my relatives places.. All the events happening almost every night and every evening brought complete merry making all around. Then there was the Diwali evening and the night when we played cards the entire night and to add to the fun more dad won around 7 grands in the card games which went on till 4.30 in the morning!!

Today 2 days after Diwali, i have nothing to do. Days have become all slow and boring.. Dullness is the right word!! No more cards, no more good food, and no more drinks.. Guess what.. The orgasm has all ended and from the peaks i have come down to deep valleys. Christmas is far. New year parties are far, till then i hope i find out ways to live high again!!

Tonight i will go for beer with my friends for sure. :-) Lets get high again!!!!

Well... Lets talk about women :-)

You see disagreeing is an art which men of today must learn because every time you disagree with them, you run a risk of earning a reputation. And especially if you are one of those guys who dosent want to be called a male chauvinist then please disagree properly, because women have misused this term and this is one of those many terms which is tossed around very loosely in the air by them without understanding its true meaning.. :-). Infact women today misuse everything which is somewhere related to feminism.

You see the very word called 'FEMINISM' is flawed completely. "Wikipedia defines Feminism as pushing for EQUAL rights for women as shared by men in the society." Well if that was the case then why was the word  'EQUALITY' not used??? Why Feminism???

Very humbly submitting that i know that women are not equal even today.. Thanks to those dogs (men) of the previous generations who kept the women down with an iron hand. And really i for one appreciate women who have developed and demonstrated that even they are no less. They handle the child almost single handedly in the initial years, they have shown immense capabilities even in the business world and what not. But i would also like to submit very humbly that women, in their quest of getting there have overdone what they should have done. So much so that its getting dangerous.

No dont get me wrong.. I am not afraid of women developing and growing, and i am really all for it. But they, in the quest of their growth are not only trying to pull down the men but even pulling down the other members of their own sex which is quite funny.

This somewhere shows there desperation which is though understandable considering their not so good history but that alone is not a reason enough to push so hard, that you pull down even the members of your own sex. It seems women to satisfy their urge of domination etc have themselves become 'more men' than men themselves, and thus have ended up defeating their own purpose of emancipation.

Thankfully some good sense has prevailed on the young men of today and they have realized that women should have an equal say in every aspect of life, and that they are capable too. To this realization of men, women have responded very aggressively. So aggressively that relationships have fallen apart.

Another thought is that men and women are not equal and so nothing is wrong with that... Well read on..

Men and women are both endowed with different characteristics which complement each other perfectly. And so men and women are not equal!! Here i am not talking about superiority or inferiority but its just that they are not equal.. They are different. Research shows that men are better off in certain things and women are better off in certain other things. Sadly the research which i am talking about only talks from the context of the behavioural aspect. It doesnt say very explicitly that which activities are done better by whom.

And finally there are a breed of funny women these days who say that women are so self sufficient that now due to technology and shit, they dont even need a man to father their children.

Well, i want to ask, were the women treating men only as sex objects so that they could have kids from them? And now when you have technology to fertile your womb, you say that you dont require men?? For God's sake!!! what kind of an attitude are the women of today carrying? And thats why i wrote above, that sometimes this kind of a behaviour in women can be dangerous for the balance in our society. You very much need men just like they need you.

I apologise for the injustice my grandfathers and your grandfathers did on my grandmothers and your grandmothers, though an apology from me is not warranted for. I empathise and sympathise truly the strugglesome battle which women of the world faced till sometime back due to male domination and I acknowledge that completely. But an appropriate gesture and response from women is what which is needed to maintain balance.

P.S. The other day i was travelling in the metro and a lady came after sometime with her 2 friends. All three of them were looking healthy and were talking and laughing.. Suddenly one women asked me to get up and give her the seat. I was not sitting on the ladies seat and the way she asked was as if the metro belongs to her father :-) :-) I found it very funny and I responded her in the same tone in which she was talking. I said I am not well and I wont get up, ask for a seat from the ladies section. To this she responded in a typically complaining tone which has become a way of life for many women today. She said 'gents ko tameez nahi hai ladies se kaise baat karte hain'
hahahaha..... For God's sake..... WTF!!!

We as human beings have made our identities very fragile by integrating our identity to things other than our real self. Now defining real self exactly is a subject matter of pure philosophy so i wont go there, but i am sure intuitively we know what I am talking about...

So what is the most fragile thing???

Well they could be many, but to my mind comes one thing which is not only fragile but highly vulnerable to disagreements, or sometimes even attacks in rare situations. This means that if we integrate our identity with this particular thing only then obviously we would be in a situation where we would feel that its our identity with which people are disagreeing and its our identity which is being attacked sometimes.

I am talking about the word 'OPINIONS'

Everyone has thoughts and opinions about everything. Sometimes we become so opinionated that we become our opinions. In other words we narrow down our identity to one thing called opinion. And then we guard that opinion of ours against all others. We guard it with our blood, life , and soul, because we have narrowed down our identity to simply our opinion, and to safeguard our identity we'll do anything.

Consider the following example which is in a very macro sense.

Religion. Some people start living in a fallacy that their's is the only religion and their's is the only God. They start having this opinion obviously and so even if someone talks about being an atheist or an agnostic from their religion, the 'keepers of the religion' would rather eliminate such people. (Pakistan, Afghanistan have a death penalty for practising atheism)

Why would this happen at all??? I think again it happens for the same reason. These few people of the religion have integrated their identity with their dear opinion about the greatness of their religion. (I am not doubting the greatness of any religion. I am just talking from their perspective). The identity has been integrated so much so that they would be offended even if someone practises atheism. They feel that by disagreeing and by not practising a religion, atheists have attacked the very identity of the keepers of the religion.

Forget about religions. Relationships fall apart due to the differences of opinion. The girlfriend gives one opinion and the boyfriend disagrees for his own reasons and the girl wont appreciate it much. Whats the big deal?? The guy never disagreed with the girl or with her identity. He only disagreed with the girl's particular opinion. And the girl would make all stories in her head, feel bad, offended, and what not as if the guy has attacked her very identity.. Again this happened because here the girl's identity is same as her opinion, which is vulnerable to disagreements, and sometimes even attacks.

(Girls reading this, dont get offended. I had to take an example so i did. This can be with boys also.)

Having opinions is not bad. Because its through them that we set our principles in life and decide whats right and wrong. But then Identity should not be brought down to the level of an opinion. Though undoubtedly an opinion comes from the identity, but it should be kept apart. Otherwise disagreements will continue, relationships will fall apart, wars will take place, tolerance level will diminish, etc etc.

I have some great artists in my friends. Manjesh is one of them. Everyone who knows him is usually enthralled by his photography skills. And not only that. The captions which he puts complete the pics. You see a picture is just a picture. The soul of every picture is the message which it gives you, or rather the message which you extract out of it.

See the following pic....

The caption of this pic is "A Ray of hope"

In his blog Manjesh says that this pic was taken by him by mistake while doing the camera settings. For most of us this pic is a piece of trash which should have been deleted right away, but for a person who is a photographer nothing passes by without an interpretation which reflects very fast and is highly instintive.

How many times in our lives also we disregard so many incidents and happenings because they pass by in front of us and we dont even live that moment or that incident. As i said above that a picture is just a picture, and the soul of every picture is the interpretation the viewer gives. By the same analogy, incidents and happenings are nothing unless some meaning is given to them.

And indeed, Life is empty and meaningless. its void of all meanings and purpose. No, this is not a pessimistic statement. Its just reality. The fullness and meanings are provided to life by our own interpretations. And the purpose too is provided to it by us. Life itself does not have any inherent meanings or purpose. And just like the caption above, without which this pic would have been a piece of trash, or rather completely meaningless, in the same manner our lives are to be seen.

Indeed the caption made the pic worth. And yeah, just because of the interpretation provided by the caption, its one of my favorite pics too.

Why do you think Raj Thakrey behaves the way he behaves?? An insecure dictator who desperately wants to secure a flawed and a completely useless ideology built by his own fancies. The man (by the way he shouldnt be called a 'man'. Doesnt deserve this term) almost runs a parallel Government in Maharashtra and runs the state on the pillars of his completely idiotic ideologies.

I dont understand how does it make a difference if Mumbai was addressed as Bombay?? Did the sun start rising from the west or did the Stock market crash? But surely enough it created tremendous tremors in his head and he went ahead to even ban the movie, Wake up Sid, in Mumbai. What kind of an utter nonsense..

Amitabh Bacchan speaks in hindi and Raj Thakrey gets offended because according to him only Marathi should be spoken on that land. SRK expresses his love for Delhi and he ends up facing the wrath of Raj Thakrey who wants him to express his love only for Mumbai because according to the ideologies and utter rigidity of thoughts of Raj Thakrey that was a SIN!!!

Unfortunately some where down the line his thoughts and ideologies have managed to trickle down even on the commoners in Maharashtra. There have been incidents where commeners have become incresingly arrogant and their behavior towards people from other places of India is simply disgusting.

I strongly disliked the concept of the movie SARKAR and SARKAR RAJ. Keeping aside the fact that it was a blockbuster and showed some mind blowing performances, it also glorified the existence of a 'Sarkar' which was a parallel Government in Maharashtra. Obviously that was based on Bal and Raj Thakrey only.

How shamelessly has the movie shown that Sarkar is people friendly and has a broad mind and an excellent development plan for Maharashtra which is not true in reality.

Unfortunately media influences the people a lot and this movie has been instrumental in glorifying Raj Thakrey in a flawed way to the people of Maharashtra. This can be destructive for the future.

I fail to understand this person. He is a jerk!!!

P.S.- I applaud Karan Johar for apologising to Raj Thakrey for using the term Bombay in his movie. Its rightly said, "you can not win arguments with fools because first they bring you down to their level and then beat you with their experience" - Chinese Proverb.

I am sure in his heart Karan Johar thinks about him just the way I think, but he satisfied the foolish guy by saying sorry which I am sure he dint even mean :-)

I am sure it dint hurt Karan Johar much if saying a fake sorry can lift the ban on his movie in Mumbai.